Some Heroines of Mine

Posted on August 3rd, 2008 by Cam.
Categories: Let's talk.

I spent some time today with two friends I have met through treatment. The first, who I met during radiotherapy, is about my age and has breast cancer and a high genetic chance of secondaries. The issues that she faces far outweigh any of the issues that I have had to contemplate. She has to make the decision to have a double mastectomy in order to reduce the risk of the cancer returning. It is a decision that affects body image, the grief of losing parts of one’s body, sexuality, motherhood and relationships amongst many other factors. I can honestly say that I have very little understanding of what she is feeling at the moment. I mean, it can be described to me, but the magnitude of her predicament overwhelms me.

Later on this afternoon I went to a farewell for another friend who heads off tomorrow to Melbourne for a drug trial for the next three months. Her stem-cell transplant didn’t result in remission, and we both want to avoid the next stage of stem-cell transplant (involving matched donor) as it is more unpleasant and less effective than the kind we have both had (where we are our own donor). She has had to up and leave home, move to a new town and participate in a trial program. Thankfully, the trial has resulted in some good results in others, so we are all of course hoping for the best in her situation too.

These girls are vibrant, positive, young and they look amazingly healthy. They will be the first to admit they don’t cope all the time, but I feel they have had to deal with far more traumatic circumstances than I have to date. It is not about determining the degrees of difficulty for different people’s situations, but in the same way I feel like I have got a lot to learn before I tackle my future steps as courageously as they do.

2 comments.

Sharon Murphy

Comment on August 4th, 2008.

I know we all try and be as positvie as we possible can and i know there are people worse off than us and sometimes you just think , LIFE CAN BE SUCH A BITCH SOMETIMES.

Cam

Comment on August 4th, 2008.

Couldn’t have articulated it better myself Sharon.

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