Happy New Year

Posted on January 1st, 2010 by Cam.
Categories: Let's talk.

I don’t really know what I can say about the last year, or what I hope the new year holds.  Last year, 2009, defeated me.  I lost.

I remember the footage that was filmed when this blog first started.  I was cocky. I was handling a difficult situation the best way I knew how.  Well, I am no longer cocky.  I feel beaten.  I may not stay in this place, but for now, it is a feeling that is as heavy as wet concrete.

This year has included my spinning out of control, deep depression, careless treatment of those who love me, a  post-traumatic breakdown, the surfacing of all the anger, rejection, esteem crap, false beliefs, destructive self-perceptions and chronic confusion.  It has included the devastating separation from my wife Elizabeth, who has selflessly loved me through years of difficulty.  It has included too many prayers for my breathing to stop and too many verbal sprays to God stating how much he’s let me down.  It has included my body being chipped away at, making it look and feel hideous to me now.  After a lifetime of hating my body,  it seems to be getting back at me now.  I am dependent on drugs for controlling pain and maintaining brain.  This has all happened this year, and so much more.

Tonight, new year’s eve, I just couldn’t talk with anyone.  Part of me craved conversation, as it usually does, but the amount on my mind in reflection is still too much, and maybe it is better to leave the year behind entirely.  It is time to look forward.

I am not good at this looking forward, moving on, so this is my over-arching resolution I think.  I want to be well.  I want to have kids. I want to be in relationship. I want to be restored.  I want 2010 to be the best year yet.  Although I know it is possible, at this point, to be honest, I just can’t see it.